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Love

"You can't heal people you love. You can't make choices for them. You can't rescue them. You can promise that they won't journey alone. You can loan them your map. But this trip is theirs." Laura Jean Truman

So poignant and so true —

"A fixer A fixer has the illusion of being causal. The server knows that he or she is being used in the service of something greater, essentially unknown. We fix something specific. We serve always the something: wholeness and the mystery of life. Fixing and helping are the work of the ego. Serving is the work of the soul. When you help, you see life as weak. When you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may cure. Serving heals. When I help, I feel satisfaction. When I serve, I feel gratitude. Fixing is a form of judgment. Serving is a form of connection." Unknown

"The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them. How much sorrow can I hold? That's how much gratitude I can give. If I carry only grief, I'll bend toward cynicism and despair. If I have only gratitude, I'll become saccharine and won't develop much compassion for other people's suffering. Grief keeps the heart fluid and soft, which makes compassion possible." Francis Weller

Less is so often more — these words distill, in a mere 6 sentences, the mountains of words I’ve used to describe the immense value of grieving, healing and gratitude.

"Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now." Fred Rogers

Such a great definition of love . . . .

“There is still so much in the world worth fighting for. So much that is beautiful, so many wonderful people working to reverse the harm, to help alleviate the suffering. And so many young people dedicated to making this a better world. All conspiring to inspire us and to give us hope that it is not too late to turn things around, if we all do our part.” Dr. Jane Goodall

Reason for hope —

"In certain regions of South Africa, when someone does something wrong, he is taken to the center of the village and surrounded by his tribe for two days while they speak of all the good he has done. They believe each person is good, yet sometimes we make mistakes, which is really a cry for help. They unite in this ritual to encourage the person to reconnect with his true nature. The belief is that the unity and affirmation have more power to change behavior than shame and punishment. This is known as Ubuntu - humanity towards others."

I was profoundly struck by such a deeply compassionate way for people to be asked to address their mistakes:

“I never lose. I either win or learn.” Nelson Mandela

For every challenging experience, there are these possibilities: