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September 2019

"A fixer A fixer has the illusion of being causal. The server knows that he or she is being used in the service of something greater, essentially unknown. We fix something specific. We serve always the something: wholeness and the mystery of life. Fixing and helping are the work of the ego. Serving is the work of the soul. When you help, you see life as weak. When you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may cure. Serving heals. When I help, I feel satisfaction. When I serve, I feel gratitude. Fixing is a form of judgment. Serving is a form of connection." Unknown

"The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them. How much sorrow can I hold? That's how much gratitude I can give. If I carry only grief, I'll bend toward cynicism and despair. If I have only gratitude, I'll become saccharine and won't develop much compassion for other people's suffering. Grief keeps the heart fluid and soft, which makes compassion possible." Francis Weller

Less is so often more — these words distill, in a mere 6 sentences, the mountains of words I’ve used to describe the immense value of grieving, healing and gratitude.